Okay, so I’ve been messing around with this “venus square mars” thing in my chart, and let me tell you, it’s been a journey. I started by, you know, just Googling it – “venus square mars natal chart” – and, like, a million things popped up. Astrology blogs, forums, the whole nine yards. It was information overload, honestly.
So, I narrowed it down. I decided to focus on sources that talked about practical effects, not just airy-fairy descriptions. I wanted to know how this aspect actually plays out in real life, in my relationships, my drive, all that stuff.
Digging Deeper
I spent a good few hours just reading. Taking notes. Highlighting stuff. I started to see some patterns, some common themes about this aspect. Things like:

- Difficulty balancing giving and receiving affection.
- Internal conflict between desire and action.
- Attracting intense or challenging relationships.
- A need to find a middle between self-assertion and cooperation.
Seeing those bullet points written down, well, it felt a little too real. I mean, I definitely recognize some of those struggles in my own life.
Next, I started journaling. I’m not usually a “journaling” type of person, but I figured, why not? I created a new notebook just for this. I started writing down specific instances where I felt like this venus-mars square was messing with me. Like, that time I got super frustrated with my partner for no good reason? Yeah, that went in the journal. Or that time I really wanted to start a new project but just… couldn’t seem to get myself moving? Also in the journal.
After a couple of weeks of this, I started to notice patterns in my own behavior, not just in the general descriptions I’d read online. It was like, “Oh, that’s what that is!” I started to understand the specific ways this aspect was manifesting for me.
Putting It Into Practice
Once I had a better handle on how it was showing up, I started trying to change things. Small things, at first. Like, when I felt that familiar frustration creeping in, I’d take a deep breath and try to communicate more clearly instead of just snapping. Or when I felt that inertia holding me back, I’d force myself to take just one small step towards my goal, even if I didn’t feel like it.

It’s definitely a work in progress. It’s not like I’ve magically solved all my relationship problems or suddenly become a productivity machine. But I’m more aware now. And I’m more intentional about how I respond to those internal conflicts and external challenges. It’s like I’ve got a little bit more control, you know? Still a long way, but I finally started to understand my own feelings.