Okay, so I’ve been diving deep into understanding astrological placements, and today I wanted to share my experience with exploring the North Node in the 4th House. It’s been a real journey of self-discovery, and I’m excited to walk you through it.
First off, I started by just reading about what North Node in the 4th House meant. Like, textbook definitions. I saw stuff about needing to move away from career ambitions (typical 10th house stuff) and focus on home, family, and emotional security. Honestly, it sounded kinda boring at first! I’m a pretty ambitious person, so chilling at home wasn’t exactly my idea of a fulfilling life path.
Then I started looking at my own chart and thinking about my past. I realized I’d spent a lot of my life chasing external validation – good grades, fancy jobs, impressing people. I always felt like I needed to do something impressive to be worthy. It was all very 10th house, gotta-climb-the-ladder energy. And I realized… I was pretty burned out. I wasn’t happy, even when I “succeeded.”
So, I decided to actively try shifting my focus. This is where the practical stuff came in. I started small.
- I started cooking more. Sounds simple, but I’d always relied on takeout or quick meals because I was “too busy.” Taking the time to cook, to nourish myself, felt surprisingly grounding.
- I spent more quality time with my family. Not just obligatory holiday visits, but actually connecting with them. Listening to their stories, sharing my own.
- I worked on making my living space a sanctuary. Decluttering, adding cozy touches, making it a place I truly enjoyed being in.
It wasn’t an overnight transformation, believe me! There were days I still felt the urge to hustle and grind. But I kept reminding myself of the North Node in the 4th House – that this was about finding my inner foundation, not external achievements.
One of the biggest challenges was dealing with the guilt. I felt like I was “wasting” time by not being productive. My inner critic was LOUD. But I started journaling about these feelings, and that helped me process them. I realized a lot of my guilt came from societal expectations and old programming.
The interesting thing is, as I focused more on home and family, my career actually improved. It wasn’t the main focus anymore, but I had more energy, more clarity, and I was making better decisions. I think it’s because I was coming from a place of inner security, rather than desperation to prove myself.
It’s still a work in progress, of course. I still have days where I feel like I’m backsliding into old patterns. But I’m much more aware of my tendencies now, and I have tools to bring myself back to center.
Honestly, exploring my North Node in the 4th House has been one of the most rewarding things I’ve done. It’s about creating a sense of belonging within myself, and building a strong emotional foundation. It turns out, that’s way more fulfilling than any promotion or award.
So, if you have this placement, or you’re just feeling drawn to these themes, I highly recommend diving in. Don’t expect instant results, and be patient with yourself. It’s a journey, not a destination!
