Okay, let me walk you through how I started looking into this whole “transits for love” idea. It wasn’t some grand plan, more like a curiosity I decided to follow for a bit.
Getting Started
First thing I did was get myself a basic transit calendar. Not one of those super complicated astrology charts, just something simple that showed where the main planets – you know, like Venus, Mars, maybe the Moon – were supposed to be moving through the signs day by day. I figured, keep it simple, right? Didn’t want to get bogged down in details I didn’t understand.
Then, I grabbed a plain notebook. That was my main tool, really. The calendar was just a reference point.

The Daily Check-in
So, my routine kinda formed naturally. Most mornings, or sometimes in the evening if the day got away from me, I’d take a quick look at the calendar. See what was supposedly happening up there. Venus entering a new sign? Moon doing something? Okay, noted.
But the main part was the notebook. I decided I wasn’t going to try and predict anything. Instead, I just wrote down how I was feeling about connections, relationships, that sort of thing. It was more like a simple journal prompt:
- How am I feeling towards my partner today?
- Did I feel more open to chatting with people?
- Or did I feel kinda withdrawn, maybe a bit irritable?
- Any specific interactions that stood out – good or bad?
I tried to be honest. If I felt grumpy, I wrote grumpy. If I felt affectionate, I wrote that. I didn’t try to link it directly to the planet stuff in the moment, just recorded my own feelings and experiences for that day.
Observing Patterns (or Not)
After doing this for a few weeks, maybe a couple of months, I started flipping back through the notebook. I’d compare my notes to what the transit calendar said for those days.
It was… interesting. Sometimes, yeah, on days when Venus was supposed to be in a ‘good’ spot, I noticed my notes reflected feeling more harmonious or having pleasant interactions. Like, “Oh yeah, had a really nice dinner with my spouse that night,” or “Felt unusually chatty and friendly today.”

But other times? Total mismatch. The calendar might say something potentially challenging was happening, but I’d had a perfectly fine day, felt great about my relationships. Or the opposite – a supposedly ‘lovely’ transit day, and I felt annoyed or disconnected for reasons that had nothing to do with the stars, like a bad day at work or just being tired.
What I Took Away
So, what’s the verdict after my little experiment? For me, the biggest benefit wasn’t about proving astrology right or wrong. It was actually the practice of paying attention.
Making myself jot down those notes each day forced me to check in with my own feelings about love, partnership, and connection. It made me more aware of the little shifts in my mood and my interactions. Did the planets cause those shifts? Honestly, I have no idea. Maybe sometimes? Maybe it’s just coincidence? Maybe it’s just the power of suggestion because I was looking at the calendar?
Ultimately, I found the regular check-in itself valuable. It was a simple way to be more mindful about my relationship dynamics. The transit calendar part was just the framework I used to get started. It wasn’t about finding cosmic answers, more about creating a routine for personal reflection on the ‘love’ part of my life.